During early childhood, we hear comments, phrases of praise, criticism, encouragement, and failure from our peers, from our power relations, in the family or school. These phrases are so powerful and work for us as a mirror. Our brain stores these voices and starts acting according to these positive or negative inner voices. Over time, these voices internalize and shape our cognition, developing our self-concept and worldview.
Listening and Sorting Inner Voices
According to Psychologists, there are three kinds of inner voices:
· The inner critic that judges us as inadequate for the task, like you cannot do this
· The inner defender blames or criticizes others, as No one taught me this, while others do it because they were taught from childhood.
· The inner self/inner creator is the inner voice that encourages one to take an action. For example, I can do it.
If we sort our inner voices by writing them on paper, we can easily distinguish the voices given by others to us and the voices of our inner selves. We will see three types of wordings: First, words like cannot do. Second, it shows fears like what if I try and fail? Or what will others think about me if I fail? The third inner voice would have neutral or positive words that provide action pathways. This third category is our inner voice. In other words, if we remove the inner voices of cannot and fear of failure, the rest of the inner voices would be neutral or positive.
My Inner voices
When I decided to share my knowledge and experience here, one of my inner voices was: who am I on this planet? A particle! My authentic inner voice suggested that I am a tiny particle in this universe who can share its knowledge and hypothesis with others that might benefit anyone in any possible way.
